Women and Head Coverings

What in the world do you do with 1 Corinthians 11:2-16? 

I am preaching through 1 Corinthians on Sunday mornings and this passage totally racked my brain. I vaguely remember studying it in Bible college but back then I didn't have to do anything with it except try to memorize a few points for a test. When you have to preach it on a Sunday morning to a congregation of people (men and women, members and visitors) it is a whole 'nother story. 

One biblical commentator has said that "throughout church history, 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 has been one of the least understood and therefore most controversial passages in all of Scripture" (MacGregor). I don't know how big of an issue this passage was in church history, but I do know that it is hard to understand and controversial for today…particularly in our culture.

Here is the basic gist of the passage.

Paul commends the Corinthians for following his oral teaching, then tells them that he wants them to know that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God (11:3). This statement leads into a long discourse on the need for women to wear a head covering when they pray or prophesy in the church gathering. Paul talks about women having their head shaved (if they are not going to wear a head covering), being created for man, being the glory of man, and having long hair…and he talks about men not covering their heads, being the image and glory of God, being dependent on the woman, and not having long hair. And Paul throws in an obscure statement about angels just to make it more interesting. 

Thanks, Paul.

How is someone supposed to preach through that? 

Well, most preachers simply don't. It is a hard passage that is difficult to understand, doesn't seem relevant, and is bound to create controversy. Perhaps the only people who preach on it are those with a specific agenda to subjugate women and make sure they wear a head covering on Sunday mornings. 

As I wrestled through this passage this past week…and even as I wrestled through it as I preached…I began to understand it a little more and to see its relevance for today.

Here are three basic things that I think Paul was trying to teach in 1 Corinthians 11:2-16.

1. Be culturally sensitive. 

I read many different interpretations of 11:2-16 but most of them seemed to ignore the context of 1 Corinthians 8-10. The common interpretation is that 11:2-16 begins a new section on public worship and so the ties are to 1 Corinthians 11-14 more than to 1 Corinthians 8-10. But I think there is a greater tie to these previous chapters than is often emphasized. 

In 1 Corinthians 8-10, Paul is teaching the Corinthians to be culturally aware and sensitive. The issue is idol meat and whether it is okay for a Christian to eat it. The Corinthians were convinced that it was okay to eat it because of their freedom in Christ. Paul didn't disagree with them in principle, but he did want them to see questionable issues like these on a higher plane. The question is not just, "do I have a right and freedom to do this?" but rather "what is the impact of this action on others?" In other words, our ethics should not be based on "my rights" but on love. 

Love willingly enters another person's world. It willingly gives up its own rights for the benefit of another. Christ exhibited the heart of love when He willingly left the glories of heaven and took on human flesh in order to be a servant and to die for our sins on the cross. Paul followed this pattern when he became all things to all men so that by all possible means he might save some (9:22b). This kind of mindset recognizes the needs of another, reaches out to them in compassion, and removes all obstacles that would hinder them from seeing the love of Christ.

It is being sensitive to the culture in order to be effective for the gospel. 

Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks, or the church of God–even as I try to please everybody in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved. Follow my example as I follow the example of Christ (10:32-11:1).

Or as Paul says in Romans 12:17b, Try to do what is honorable in everyone’s eyes.

So when we come to the issue of headcoverings, we are entering an area of cultural sensitivity. What was "honorable" for a woman in that society was to wear a headcovering in public. It was a sign of modesty, purity, and femininity. It was also a sign that a woman was in right relationship to her husband. For a woman not to wear a headcovering in that society would indicate that she was either sexually promiscuous (and proud of it) or "available" and looking for someone. 

Paul's concern in 11:2-16 is on what is "honorable" and what is "shameful" in that society. If it is shameful for a woman to be without a head covering, then why would the believers at Corinth ignore this? Why would they have a public gathering, where visitors might be present, and purposefully ignore the connotations of their actions? Apparently the Corinthian women were so intent on their freedom in Christ that they were not thinking (or caring) about the message they were sending to others. They might be praying to God and talking about God but, based on their appearance, many of the people were hearing, "I am a sexually free woman. Are you interested?"

Which leads to the second message of 11:2-16. 

2. Be modestly dressed. 

Whenever you look at parallel passages to 11:2-16, the message is the same to women. Be modest in your appearance (1 Timothy 2:9-10; 1 Peter 3:3-4). This is always the emphasis…not head coverings per se. In fact, no other passage mentions head coverings for women. And in the OT, men serving in the priesthood were the ones expected to wear head coverings (Ex. 28:4, 37-38, 39:28; Ezek. 44:18). So the issue of head coverings for women is almost certainly cultural not universal. 

In the Jewish and Greco-Roman cultures, to "let down your hair" had sexual connotations (hence the scandal of Luke 7:38). So when a woman in the Corinthian congregation was standing up in front of others with her hair down and no head covering, she was sending a message that was hard for others, particularly men, to ignore. 

This is why I think Paul mentions the fact that women are "created for man" and are "the glory of man." Feminists often hate these words but they are actually quite beautiful…and true. When Adam first saw Eve, he started spouting poetry (Genesis 2:23) and when Solomon looked at his bride, he poured out praise for her body from head to toe (4:1-15, 7:1-9). 

Men are visually oriented and they are attracted to the glory of a woman's body. Most women cannot fully fathom how a man thinks when it comes to seeing their beauty (though advertisers obviously do). "Why don't they just clean up their minds?!" Yes, many men struggle with lust and pornography and need to make a covenant with their eyes not to look lustfully at a girl (Job 31:1). But, just as many men need to clean up their minds, many women need to cover up their bodies. By dressing immodestly…and often provocatively…many women enjoy the "attention" of men but it is not the attention that they really want. It is the attention that my dog gives to a piece of meat. It is ravenous, selfish, lustful, out-of-control, consuming, and eventually destructive. 

So, in ancient Corinth, a woman in the church gathering with an uncovered head and long flowing hair was as provocative as a woman today standing in a chuch service with a short skirt and a tight or low-cut shirt. That woman may be sincerely worshipping God, but many men around her are mentally worshipping her. 

That's why I think Paul mentions the "angels" (11:10). The angels are so protective of God's glory, as they gather around His throne and worship Him night and day, that they would be shocked and offended that in the middle of a "worship service," there were many women drawing attention to themselves and many men drawn to their beauty rather than to God's. 

Do you think this has any relevance for today? Many worship services are times for people to show off their physical appearance…and admire the physical appearance of others…rather than to glorify God. Of course, this doesn't mean that we should come to church looking homely, disheveled, and miserable (cf. Matt. 6:16). This too draws attention to ourselves rather than to God. The standard is modesty. Not too extravagant. Not too frumpy. But culturally appropriate. 

That's why head coverings in America today would have the opposite effect of what Paul is intending. Paul was concerned about women drawing inappropriate attention to themselves. He wanted them to do what was "normal" and culturally "proper." In our own society, that would mean dressing in a modest way and seeking not to be a distraction in worship, whether one is male or female. 

That leads to Paul's final point. 

3. Be genderly content.

Okay, "genderly" is probably not the best word but it conveys the thought. Paul was concerned that, in the Corinthian church, several women were acting and looking more like men…and apparantly some men were acting and looking more like women. That seems to be Paul's whole point in his analogy about women with long hair and men with short hair (11:13-15). I think Paul is basically saying this:

"Judge for yourselves. If you walked into a room of people and all the men had long, flowing hair and all the women had short crew cuts or were bald, wouldn't you be shocked? Wouldn't you think that something was wrong with this picture?"

In Paul's mind, this was exactly what the Corinthians were portraying with the women not wearing head coverings and apparently some of the men wearing them. It was a complete gender reversal. And it showed that the Corinthians did not have a proper understanding of gender identity and roles. 

So Paul reminds them of God's design for gender.

God created us "male and female." We are equal in essence (Genesis 1:27). We are one in Christ (Galatians 3:28). We are mutually dependent on one another (1 Cor. 11:11-12). There is no room for arrogance or dominance. Both genders are made for each other and need each other (as evidenced in reproduction). 

But though we are equal in essence, we are different in design. We were made for different roles. Man was made primarily for a task (Genesis 2:15) while woman was made primarily for relationship (Genesis 2:18-22). Yes, we both share in the task and in the relationship (Genesis 1:28) but there is still distinction in our purpose and design. To ignore these distinctions is to our own detriment. Men have a heart bent more toward strength. Women have a heart bent more toward love. 

Because of sin, men often look for strength illegitimately, becoming abusive or angry, or they abdicate their strength, becoming passive and apathetic. Women, on the other hand, often look for love illegitimately, becoming provocative or clingy, or they deny their love, becoming bitter and domineering. And strangely enough, provocative and clingy women often end up with abusive, angry men and domineering and bitter women often produce passive, apathetic men. 

We see this in our own society. As gender lines are blurred (and even left up to personal choice), we are producing more and more angry and passive men ("checking out" from the family and often reality) and more and more aggressive and depressed women (carrying the load of the family or rejecting it altogether). These are not the marks of a healthy society…or one that will last.

Instead God calls men to lead and take responsibility, with a servant's heart, in the home and in the church. And He calls women to respect and support male leadership, with a submissive heart, in the home and in the church. This obviously grates the nerves of some people but, again, it is a beautiful design when it is exercised with grace. Husbands subordinating their agenda out of sacrificial love for their wives and women subordinating their agenda out of supportive respect for their husbands. Both meeting the deepest needs of the other. Both, paradoxically, finding greater contentment and joy in giving up their selfish rights and demands…and learning what it means to be "male and female" to God's glory. 

So if we can get past the cultural issue of head coverings, we can see the universal relevance of 1 Corinthians 11:2-16. The church of Jesus Christ should be the one place where male and female display the beauty and order of God's design…being sensitive to their culture (so as to increase the effectiveness of the gospel), being modest in their dress (so as to keep the focus on God in worship), and being content in their gender (so as to experience the fullness and joy of God's design). 

Hats off to you, Paul. You hit the nail on the head. 

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The End of the Pursuit

It hit me this morning as I was riding with my 15-year old son.

"I have reached the end of many of my pursuits."

Life is so exciting for him. He is about to get his driver's license. A whole new world on the road will soon be opening to him. It is all new. Driving to him is "fun."

I can't remember the last time that driving was fun to me. It's not an adventure any more. It is a task. I remember driving to California from Florida when I was in college. It was an adventure. Now driving three hours away seems tiring and draining.

What's changed? Am I just getting older? More tied to home? More used to cars? More mature and settled? More dull and boring?

Or maybe just at the end of many of my pursuits.

I pursued getting through middle school, then high school, then college, then seminary. I pursued getting a permit, then a license, then a car to drive (even if it was my parent's ugly Ford Fairmont), then a "cool" car to call my own. I pursued dating, then engagement, then marriage, then children. I pursued getting an apartment, then renting a house, then owning my own home. I pursued becoming a youth pastor, then an associate pastor, then a senior pastor.

When you are younger, everything seems like a pursuit. Everything seems "out there." There are new experiences to be had. New places to see. New goals to attain.

But as you get older, particularly in middle age, you start to come to the end of many of these pursuits. Owning a car isn't that big of a deal. It is just another headache to deal with. Owning a house is nice but it doesn't "fulfill your dreams." Instead it often just dominates your free time with chores and repairs. Getting an education is a great pursuit but after graduation, all you have is a degree on the wall and the responsibility of a job. Climbing the "ladder" in your chosen occupation keeps you motivated for awhile, but soon you reach a place that you realize that every job has its benefits…and its mundane, frustrating, and stressful parts as well. And even though I wouldn't trade my family for the world, I have to recognize the reality that marriage in itself does not satisfy…and having children doesn't produce the lifelong Kodak moments that you have in your mind.

So here I am at 45 realizing that many of the goals that I have put out there to pursue…many of the life experiences that I have wanted to experience…have been realized.

What now? Is this all there is?

I can understand what drives the "midlife crisis." You have come to the end of many of your pursuits…and there is not much there. It is like getting to the vacation resort that looks so good online but it never measures up to your expectations and, even if it does, it is still just a temporary experience that you know won't last.

So you look around and think, "Well, is there anything else out there that will satisfy? I don't have much time so I better start pursuing it now." So you launch a new career, start a new relationship, move to a new city, even change your whole persona to try to find that missing "something" that you might have missed.

But what if the end of all our pursuits on this earth is just plain unsatisfying? What if every excitement, like getting a driver's license, is destined to fade over time?

What if this world was never meant to be our home?

"If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world." C.S. Lewis

I realized this morning that I have reached the end of many of my earthly pursuits…and they have not satisfied. But there is one pursuit that I still have before me. The pursuit to know God. To grasp more of His Word. To delve more into His nature. To fathom more of His mystery. To experience more of His love. To know more of His grace. To become more like His Son.

That doesn't mean that pursuing God always thrills my soul. Oftentimes I struggle. I doubt. I wander. I stray. I run after another trivial pursuit that promises a tickle of excitement.

And that doesn't mean I don't still have goals and pursuits in this life. I am still learning, still striving, still growing, still dreaming, still enjoying the good things that this world offers.

But it does mean that I have developed a new perspective on life. I don't expect this world to satisfy. I don't wait for the next "new thing" to bring me fulfillment. Instead I try to see each day as a gift. Each possession as temporal. Each relationship as precious. Each mundane task as sacred. 

And each pursuit as a hunger for the only One who can satisfy my soul.

And even when I am not pursuing Him.

He is still pursuing me.

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Getting into Better Shape

I wish I was in better shape.

I just returned from a trip to Atlanta. While I was there, I rode through several hilly neighborhoods where it seemed like everywhere I looked there were people running. Ipods strapped to their arms. Sweat pouring from their lean, fit bodies. Eyes focused on the road ahead.

I was impressed. And discouraged.

The last time I tried running, I thought I must have run three miles through my flat neighborhood. When I measured it with my car, the odometer said I ran just over a mile.

Stupid odometer.

I keep waiting for my “running gene” to kick in. After all I have an older sister who runs. Nephews and nieces that run. And an older brother who runs Iron Man competitions. That’s over two miles of swimming, 112 miles of cycling, and 26 miles of running. In the same day! I might have done that in my lifetime. My idea of an Iron Man is playing 27 holes of golf…carrying my bag. Maybe with an extra 2-iron thrown in.

A real “iron man.”

I mean my mind keeps telling me that I am 20, that I can run and jump with the best of them if I simply tried. But my body keeps telling me that I am 45, that Advil and ibuprofen are my best friends when I try to run and jump like I’m 20. 

It is a hard reality to face.

And as much as I wish or dream for physical fitness there is one simple truth that won’t go away. Physical fitness takes work. And not just one day, but day after day. It is a lifestyle. Discipline. Consistency. Self-control. Making better choices. Putting my health over my immediate happiness. Watching my diet. Exercising when I don’t feel like it. Pushing myself whenever I can….even when I would rather “sleep in” or veg on the couch watching other people play sports.

There are no short cuts or “magic pills” to physical fitness. OK, some people use steroids to bulk up quicker…but they adversely affect their health in other ways. And some TV ads promise that you can look ripped, fit, and tan in 14 days through some revolutionary product. But despite the promises, the results are never what people expect. And most of that stuff you can find at a garage sale two months later.

To be physically fit takes discipline. Day after day. Week after week. For the rest of your life. And what keeps you motivated? The goal of feeling better, looking better, and hopefully adding a few healthy years to this all-too-brief life.

The same principle holds true for “spiritual fitness” as well.

As a pastor, I don’t know how many people I have met who expect spiritual health in an instant. They read their Bible and expect instant answers. They go to church and want an immediate “high.” They pray a few times and expect a “magic wand” to wave away all their problems…and then get discouraged or mad when it doesn’t happen.

“I prayed, pastor, and nothing happened.”

“I tried to read my Bible but it was too hard to understand so I gave up.”

“I hate going to church. I don’t see the point.”

It would be like me saying:

“I did a few push-ups this morning but nothing happened.”

“I tried to run around the block but it was too hard to keep my legs moving so I gave up.”

“I ate a salad a year ago and I don’t feel any better today. It just doesn’t work.”

There are no short cuts or “magic pills” to spiritual health. OK, some religious gurus hock “spiritual steroids” to get prayers answered quicker and God’s blessings flowing faster…but they all adversely affect your faith in other ways. And some TV preachers promise that you can be richer, healthier, and more successful if you follow their revolutionary formula or say some “secret” prayer…usually accompanied with a generous donation to their ministry. But the results are never what people expect. And their books, tapes, and prayer cloths end up in a garage sale a few years later.

Spiritual health doesn’t happen overnight. It takes work. It is following Jesus step by step, day by day. Discipline. Consistency. Self-control. Putting holiness above your immediate gratification. Reading Scripture and praying when you don’t feel like it. Watching what you put into your mind. Pushing yourself…through the power of the Spirit…even when you would rather do lesser things.

Run in such a way to win the prize (1 Corinthians 9:24b).

And what’s the prize? Pleasing the Father, fulfilling His purpose for our lives, experiencing His blessings. Inner joy. Growing contentment. Greater love. Abiding hope. Eternal reward.  

So sit up in the morning with God’s Word. Lift up your hands in praise. Run to God in prayer. Avoid the “sugar” of sin and the carbs of complacency. Visit your local spiritual gymnasium (church). Stretch your faith in ministry. Press forward in love. Be pushed by godly friends.

As iron sharpens iron… (Proverbs 27:17)

An “iron man” for Christ. 

Postscript Note: Spiritual fitness begins with a new heart in Christ. Just as physical fitness will not cure a person needing a heart transplant due to a life-threatening defect (in fact, it may hasten their death if they ignore it), so spiritual fitness only occurs after a person has recognized their sin and embraced Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. This is the free gift of eternal life in Christ (Romans 6:23). However, many professing believers seem to forget that although salvation happens in an instant, sanctification (becoming more and more like Christ) is a lifetime process. And though grace showers us and empowers us all along the way, it is not an excuse for passivity or a false hope in "instant answers." We often run to quick spiritual fixes because we simply do not want to face our own selfishness, repent of our sin, discipline our bodies, and pursue holiness step by step. Scripture is clear that we must exercise ourselves toward godliness for bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come (1 Timothy 4:7b-8). We can't expect the benefits of godliness if we are unwilling to exercise spiritual disicpline just as we cannot expect the benefits of physical fitness if we are unwilling to do the work. 

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A Few Thoughts on Homeschooling

I remember the first time I heard about homeschooling.

I was sitting in a Fantastic Sam's waiting to get my haircut and I overheard one of the stylists talking to a young teen.

"So where do you go to school?"

"Oh, I am not in a school. I am homeschooled." 

The stylist was a little taken back and so was I…though I kept flipping through the tattered copy of Sports Illustrated because I really wasn't supposed to be listening to their conversation.

"Homeschooling," I thought. "Is that legal? Sounds pretty weird."

That was around 1991. 

A few years later, homeschooling started showing up at our church in New Orleans. I was the youth pastor and most of those being homeschooled, to be honest, seemed to be coming from homes with overprotective parents seeking to isolate their kids from the world…and even from our youth group!

My first impressions of homeschooling were not that positive.

And I had no grid to evaluate it.

I grew up attending public schools in my small town in Florida. There were no other options. I had never heard of a "Christian school" and certainly not a "home school." Everyone in our town went to the local schools. I sat between the same two students–Edwards-Foster-Freeman-for most of the grades that I can remember. My parents knew most of the teachers. On Friday nights, we all went to the high school football game to watch Clay High get beat (more often than not) by the other high schools in the area. 

That was "school." I couldn't imagine anything too much different.

But when I started having my own children in 1998, the issue of schooling became more than a casual topic of discussion. By the time my oldest was 4, we began thinking about our schooling options. Christian school was out of the question. We simply didn't have the money. Public school was an option but we didn't know the schools, didn't know the teachers, and didn't how our child would do in such a setting. The public schools in central Jersey were nothing like the schools that I or my wife grew up in. Perhaps we were fearful…but as parents of 3 children under five, I think that comes with the territory. So we decided to homeschool. My wife was blessed to be able to stay at home and was more than capable for the task (with a Christian education background and an Army colonel for a dad). Our plan was to evaluate year after year and adjust as necessary.

We have kept evaluating but have never adjusted.

We are now ten years into homeschooling and I have clearly seen its benefits for our family. But I would never pontificate that everyone should homeschool. That would be naive and short-sighted. Not every family will have the same experiences or opportunities…or the same convictions.

Each family is unique.

Each child is unique.

It is that last statement, however, that makes me say that each family should at least consider homeschooling as one of their schooling options.

Each of our children are different. Same parents. Very different personalities…and passions. One likes reading and researching. One likes music and arts. One likes debating and thinking on his feet. One likes Legos and cheese quesadillas. Okay, not every difference can be catered to in your homeschool curriculum but many things can. As parents, we know our children best…and want the best for them…and I think can teach them best. At least when they are young.

As they get older, the options are endless. Latin. Piano. Guitar. Speech & Debate. Taekwondo. Swimming. Computers. Arts. Cooking. Photography. Video editing. Scrabble clubs. Reading. Politics. Community service. College prep. We have exposed them to as many subjects and activities as we can…through the skills and resources of other homeschool parents and in the local community…and we have watched them gravitate toward certain subjects and blossom as young men. And best of all most of the homeschool curriculum is accomplished before noon, leaving the afternoons and evenings free for family time or other activities.

Of course, homeschooling is not without its warts. 

My wife is tired at the end of a long day of teaching four boys. Distractions can be hard to manage. Schedules can be hard to maintain. And the "free spirited" child can be hard to corral. 

And we have to be careful that we do not isolate too much or expect too much or simply see too much of each other during the day. 

That's why we have intentionally involved our children in programs and activities outside of our home. My boys have no shortage of relationships with people of all ages, races, backgrounds, and perspectives. And because of the benefits of college prep, my two older ones are now taking college classes at a local university where they are being exposed to the culture, language, context, and challenges of college while still being able (and willing) to receive guidance from us. 

So that's been our experience with homeschooling. And the experience of many others we have talked to. 

But that doesn't mean every parent should homeschool or could homeschool or would even want to homeschool. 

And it doesn't mean that we shouldn't do everything we can to improve our local public schools…and support more options for those students who are trapped in failing schools. In Louisiana, for instance, the legislature recently passed a law allowing for school vouchers to give every family/student a real choice in education. Unfortunately our own federal Department of Justice is fighting it. Seems that many would rather have a failing monopoly than a thriving arena of competition and innovation. But that's another topic for another day.

In the end, each parent must make the best choice that they can given their circumstances and the temperament of their children.

But for those considering homeschooling….

It is legal. And I pray that it will stay that way.

It is effective. Studies consistently show homeschooling costs less and often has better outcomes than other schooling options.

And it isn't weird. 

At least it's not for two million children in the U.S. and for four boys I know here in Louisiana.

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What’s the Big Deal about Sex?

Even the casual observer would have to admit that our society has an obsession with sex. 

Sex sells. 

Everything from razors and mouthwash to Uncle Ben's rice. Practically every commercial on TV either uses sex to gain attention or mentions how to cure some sexual dysfunction…as long as you are not on nitrates for a heart condition. 

Sex is everywhere.

Sitcoms joke about it. Movies feature it. Magazines give advice about it…right there in the grocery line next to the candy and chewing gum. 

Billboards display it. Talk shows analyze it. Music celebrates it…even allowing a 20-year old Disney star to simulate it on stage. 

And that's just the tip of the iceberg.

The internet makes it accessible anywhere, any time, any way you want it. 

Even if you don't want it.

Image searches on Google almost invariably bring up a soft pornographic image (even with Safe Search on). News pages regularly feature two to three articles highlighting some sex-laden story or topic…usually with a sexual image to entice the reader…or viewer…to take a peek. Check your email and get ready for a few flashing advertisements showing you available singles in your area. Wow, thanks, Yahoo.

Of course, when statistics tell us that 1 out of every 5 searches on a mobile device, and 1 out of every 8 searches online, are for pornography, then I guess you can argue that the internet is simply giving us what we want. 

But what's the big deal? It is just sex, isn't it? Just a physical act between consenting adults…or liberated youth. Why be prudish about it? Why act like sex is something pure, beautiful, exclusive, precious, sacred? 

As a society, we have cheapened sex. And we are proud of it. 

But deep down we know that sex is something more than a physical act. There is a reason that sex is practically worshiped in our society. There is a reason that people pursue it like an addictive drug. There is a reason we still recoil in disgust when we hear about its abuse. 

Sex touches our soul.  

Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body (1 Corinthians 6:18).

There is something about sex that sets it apart. That makes it different. That impacts us like nothing else.

God designed it that way.

Sex was designed to unite two people–male and female–into a lifelong covenant of intimacy, security, and vulnerability. It was designed to "glue" them together, to weave them into one, to point them to the closest union, strongest love, purest joy found only in Christ. 

Sex is not an end in itself. It is a signpost to something greater.

It is not just an "act." It is a sacrament.

When God wanted to illustrate the intimate union that He would have with His people, He created sex within marriage…oneness between a loving, sacrificial man and his pure, beautiful bride…Christ and the church.

…We are members of His body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This mystery is great—but I am actually speaking with reference to Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:30-32).

That's why sex, outside of God's design, does not ultimately satisfy.

It entices. It tantalizes. It thrills. It seems almost "divine."

For a moment.

But then it vanishes. And leaves a wake of emptiness, loneliness, and a pang for something more.

Unfortunately, the hunger for "more" leads one further away from God, further into desperation, further into immorality. Like a cheap drug, illicit sex promises more than it can deliver. And the more one pursues it, the more it brings diminishing returns. Instead of the beauty of intimacy, it brings the bondage of addiction…and often the bane of abuse.

Welcome back to the ancient pagan religions. Our society is not progressing. We are regressing. We are becoming sexual idolaters. And we will sacrifice everything…even our babies and our children…for our new "god."

Christianity doesn't diminish sex. It blesses it. It purifies it. It preserves it. It heightens it.

As Ben Patterson notes:

The pleasures and goodness of sex are heightened, not lessened by proper restraint, in the same way the Colorado River is made more powerful by the walls of the Grand Canyon. The very narrowness of the river's channel there makes for a greater river. Farther south, as the river flows through the deserts of California and Arizona, it is shallow, wide, and muddy, even stinky in spots. Wider boundaries diminish the river; sharper, stronger, and narrower boundaries strengthen it. Less is more. The boundaries and proscriptions of sex in the Bible are for the sake of sex. Again, less is more–at least less as understood by one man and one woman together exclusively till death parts them. (Sex and the Supremacy of Christ, ed. by John Piper, 52)

Yes, believe it or not, sex according to God's design is the most satisfying.

Only within the security of marriage can a couple increasingly become vulnerable with each other and experience the true intimacy of sexual union.

No barriers. No fear. No shame.

Love instead of lust.

Self-giving instead of self-gratification.

Increasing joy instead of diminishing returns.

And this doesn't happen over night. It takes a lifetime.

Powerful. Beautiful. Intimate. Pure. Holy. Exclusive. Pleasureable.

Naked…physically, emotionally, spiritually…and unashamed.

That is sex as God designed it.

And that's a big deal.

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